No Big Deals
Our Natural Source-Centered state, who we are at our core, is Compassion, Love and Peace. And we can tap into that at any moment. Yet sometimes we get pulled into upsets. Our fear-based negativity often comes from our early-life influencers, who could only teach what they learned. The main message they desperately gave us was that for our safety and protection in the battle of life, we are right – and they are wrong, and that these ideas are really big deals. At its root is that cave man instinct for survival. They could not see the lies in this thinking. And we have adopted these lessons as our own ego beliefs.
Often our big deals come from our Future surfing. They are fears of something in the future that we have no ability to predict or control – and yet we torture ourselves with “what if?” We need to starve, not feed, those negative thoughts.
Or we get angry that they have, or are, harming us or those we love, even if we have no control to change it. I’m not saying don’t speak out or don’t do anything. Do what your Heart dictates, only if you are able to separate yourself from the energy of anger, hurt and fear surrounding this. When we are wound up, we are tethered to the problem, and to them, and it makes us unable to fully function. The stress from this winding up can greatly affect our physical health and mental wellbeing. Your health and well-being are more important than any cause or concern. It is reasonable to feel disappointed. Then, Release with Love, which sets us Free.
Or we say what we believe, and what is in our hearts (especially on social media or group chats) and others react and put us down. And then we react. We are playing an adversarial role, because our ego has been offended. You have your opinion, and they have their beliefs. Being our authentic selves means showing up and sharing who we really are, without worrying about others’ reactions. If we are judged, it is their stuff – not ours – and they are not our community. Let it go!
We can’t get attached to the outcome – no matter what. That is just our ego wanting to be right, wanting to be heard, wanting to control…fearful that otherwise bad things will happen. We have no control over situations or people in our life, and the worrying and the ego chattering, makes us crazy and feeling more out of control. So, we double down with more attempts and upset energy to fix what we cannot.
If we cannot get neutral about a situation we have to stop giving it our attention. The irony is our trying to control gets our emotions more out of control. And in that state, we are no good to ourselves or anyone else. It is detrimental to our life, and blocks our Joy. That is not for our or others Highest Well-Being. We need to detach emotionally, and if we cannot detach emotionally, we must detach physically – step away from the conflict.
Centered Action:
We can realize that there are truly no big deals…today, in the scheme of our lives. We are always safe and protected, in every moment. They too, are all on their own deep spiritual journey – no matter what that looks like to us. The Spiritual Life Classes are always in Session.
To our Health and Well Being!!
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Keep the Faith. Clean up the messes in Your Path. Give to Someone Else.
And Be Your Most Magnificent Self…
Jody Drexler