Staying in Your Own Lane

The topic of keeping our attention on our own stuff is important. It’s clear that when we don’t it causes us and those we are pestering, difficulties.  In my experience, giving unsolicited advice only causes more riffs in relationships – and yet sometimes I just cannot help myself. Especially when I think it is good advice; then I’m determined to change their point of view.

Imagine you are driving in traffic and you become overly concerned about how another driver is driving.  You are paying so much attention to their driving that you start veering out of your own lane.  That would be a very bad thing. That is exactly what happens to us when we are more concerned with how someone else is driving their life.  Lucky for us when we are actually driving, somebody will honk at us and shock us back into reality – or we give ourselves a scare as we thump over the lane bumps.  We are brought back into the present moment and back into concentrating on our own driving. 

When we are veered off into someone else’s life, we usually don’t get those warning signs.  In fact, we feel totally justified – we have their best interest at heart – and of course we think we know better.  The truth is that we are driven by our own fears, to future forecast about what we think will happen to them if they don’t change their course.  We are not allowing them to drive their own lives, make their own mistakes and put in their own course corrections – just like we have to do. 

We cannot prevent anything by our fear-based worrying.  It is not healthy for them and it is not healthy for us.  Worrying about their potential horrific consequences dissolves our present peace of mind – and it does them no good.  We are only causing ourselves harm.

Centered Action

How much time have you been wasting, worrying about someone else’s ‘problems’ and nothing has changed?  Let Love guide you to stay in your own lane and pay attention to how you are driving your life affairs. 

Today I let (fill in the person’s name) be just as they are and send them intentions for their Highest Good.  Today I let myself be just as I am and welcome in my Highest Good today. 

When you take care of yourself, you can be heart-centered – a wonderful place to give encouragement.